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Saturday, March 22, 2014

Allah Loves the One's He Tests

Salam alaikum sisters.

Alhamdulilah this past week has been full of tests. A week ago I had started getting a sharp pain in my lower right abdomen, it for sure wasn't afterbirth pains, especially with being 2 weeks postpartum by that time. So when my husband returned home from work, we packed the children up and went to the ER. We waited 4 hours to be seen! Finally they concluded, after various test, that I had appendicitis and in a few hours I would be operated on. Before operation they gave me an antibiotic which caused a severe allergic reaction, my mouth and tongue had begun to swell and I felt like one huge hive. Alhamdulilah, the surgery went well, and we found a friend of mine to watch the children while I was in the hospital that day. Alhamdulilah again that I had quite a bit of milk pumped and stored in the freezer as I could not breastfeed for 24 hours after the surgery due to the medications they gave me. They wanted me to stay night, but I insisted that they had to discharge me. 

Alhamdulilah, Allah has blessed me with only a few friends, but wonderful friends that are always there for me when I need them. The sister who watched the children for me insisted I come back with them the next day to her house so she could help me tend to them and so I could rest. Then for the next 3 days another sister came to help me with Ahmad. Alhamdulilah, by the 5th day I was feeling much better and much like myself. 

Now Hamoodi has caught a cold, inshallah Hamida will not catch it, she is still so young, only 3 weeks old.

Our washer machine also broke a few days after we came home with Hamida (2 1/2 weeks ago) inshallah it will finally be fixed by this Monday.

Inshallah all of you are well, I hope that one day I can be better at posting, but we are still adjusting to a new addition. With all the things that have been going on, hasn't made the adjustment any easier. Alhamdulilah for everything. :)

Saturday, March 1, 2014

Hamida's Induced Labor and Delivery Story~ 02.25.2014

Salam alaikum sisters.

I am here to share the story of Hamida's birth. Mashallah, alhamdulilah, Allah was very beneficent and merciful to me.

I was very scared to be induced. I have always been very natural minded but my OBGYN felt it was for the best since it seemed Hamida was not thriving in the womb. 

February 25th, 2014 our induction was scheduled. It was so strange to wake up, walk into the hospital and not be in labor. We were told to be there at 6am, so we had dropped Ahmad off at a friends house around 5am. It was so strange to think the next time I saw my little boy he'd be a big brother. My heart was breaking when I handed him to my friend. His little eyes brimming with tears. THE.HARDEST.THING.TO.DO.

We arrived at the hospital a little early, around 5:30am. We were checked in and walked up to the Labor and Delivery ward. The nurses got me settled, put my IV in, and we signed all the consent forms. At 6am the nurses shifts changed and my actual nurse who would be attending to me that day came in. Alhamdulilah, Allah is all knowing and provided me with a nurse who was so lovely and amazing. She is very natural minded herself and loved the birth plan I had written up. She even said she would remind my OBGYN to give me a chance to have Hamida naturally before any pitocin would be given.

Alhamdulilah, once again, Allah provided and instead of my OBGYN inducing me (breaking my water) the midwife who works with my OB came to induce me. I have a close relationship with the midwife and was so happy she was able to do it instead. They figured since I was being induced my labor wouldn't go as quickly as it had with Ahmad (my labor with him, from start to finish, was 2 hours and 15 minutes). The nurse told the midwife to be very rough while breaking my water so it would encourage a quicker labor. Ya Allah, it was quite uncomfortable! The midwife mentioned my water coming out like a river!

So at 8:20am the midwife broke my water, and said I was already dilated to 3cm and she said was able to stretch me to 4cm. She said she would pop back in around 12 to check how I was doing and if nothing had progressed they would give me pitocin.

After 15 minutes of my water breaking the contractions came. They became more and more intense and were becoming more focused in my back. I did not have back labor with Ahmad, and I will admit, the contractions with this birth were more painful then they were with Ahmad. I was pacing the room and preparing my mind for a potentially long labor. At one point I keeled beside my husband,  who was on the couch and rocked back and forth, I think at one point I even shook him during a contraction.

My husband hadn't eaten breakfast yet so I told him between a contraction to go ahead and eat something down in the cafeteria, and while he was headed that way to tell the nurse I would like for her to come to the room. The nurse came and I asked if I could take a warm shower since the contractions were getting more intense. She said she wanted to take my vitals real quick and I could shower. My contractions were now 2 minutes apart and very focused in the back, the only way to really deal with it was to sway back and forth. I asked her to check how far dilated I was before preparing my shower. She checked and I was 8cm!

She said, "You can not shower, we may not be able to get you back out of it!"

She called the midwife to come (who had already drove back to the clinic).

Before I knew it, there where nurses in the room. My nurse was amazing and would alleviate the back labor by pressing on my hips with every contraction. She checked me again and I was 9cms. I then wanted to start pushing. Because of the back labor, the only position comfortable for me was on my knees, and alhamdulilah, my nurse said I could position myself in any way I wanted.

I pushed for about 5 minutes (with no coaching, but letting my body do what it wanted, again, my nurse was amazing and respected all my wishes in my birth plan). I dont know how many times I pushed because I started having the urge to push at 9cms. With Ahmad I never screamed but this back labor was excruciating and I screamed while pushing. I felt her head almost come out, but the contraction finished and her head slid right back.

I muttered, "We're almost finished!"

I had the urge to push once again, I screamed, "Ya Allah!"

Her head was out, one more push and little Hamida was born at 10:12am. Only 1 hour 52 minutes of labor, delivered by my amazing nurse. Directly after Hamida was born she was passed through my legs and went straight to my chest.

I was awe struck as if she was my first. She was perfect, all slimy and sticky, but perfect. So much hair, bright red lips. As she lay on my chest, I felt complete contentment. 

Alhamdulilah. We were able to delay clamping the cord until the midwife came to deliver the placenta. We were able to do skin to skin for a whole hour after birth, getting a great latch only 30 minutes after!

After an hour of skin to skin the nurses weighed Hamida, she was 6lbs 1oz and 19 inches long.

Hamida at 2 days old.

Despite having to be induced, alhamdulilah, I am so happy and satisfied with my labor and delivery. 

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