Tuesday, September 9, 2014
Wednesday, July 30, 2014
Sunday, June 15, 2014
Where should I start?
My mother came to visit at the end of May. It was so nice to see her again, and it was the first time for her to meet my daughter, her granddaughter, Hamida. The first day of her visit we stayed home since it was memorial day and everywhere would be crowded and busy. Tuesday we had a girls day out and went to a private salon to get our hair done. After that we picked up the slaughtered sheep for the aqeeqah, dropped it off to the folks who we hired to cook for the aqeeqah. Wednesday the aqeeqah was a success, alhamdulilah, and we had a lovely time visiting with our friends and having mommy met everyone. Thursday, we all went to the zoo and when we returned home later that evening, went to the mosque. It was so cute seeing my mom in hijab (yes she came with us). Friday we just shopped the sales. I forgot what we did saturday. Sunday we went to the beach, then that night went to the mosque. Monday we went to St Augustine. Tuesday mommy left, and I miss her so much. :-(
Then, before I knew it Ramadan came. Before Ramadan I started attending the mosque more regularly, I try to go two days every week. Anyhoo, back to Ramadan, I was able to fast every other day, alhamdulilah. For those of you who may not know, I have never been able to fast since I converted because my pregnancies have always been during ramadan, subhanallah. Alhamdulilah, ramadan was wonderful. I had iftar at my home, went to my friends for iftar, went to the mosque for iftar. It was lovely. It was very nice to get more involved in the community. Since I converted I had never been able to find my spot, but alhamdulilah, I am making a place here, for the sake of the children.
Tuesday, May 20, 2014
So for the ladies who follow me on pinterest, you will know that I've been pinning shawl patterns like a crazy woman. I think they are so very beautiful, timeless, and elegant looking.
I finally found the pattern that I thought would be perfect for hot Florida summers but would also accommodate during our mild winters, if need be. I didn't follow the pattern exactly. I stopped at the scallops because I thought they were a much prettier edging then the original patterns edging. I also single crocheted two rows around the "neckline".
I only used 3 1/2 balls of the peaches and cream cotton yarn. The yarn is 1.50$ a ball, so all in all, I paid 5.25$ for this shawl!
I had to stretch the shawl as well. All you have to do is pin down the shawl really tight, spritz it with water, iron it, and let it sit for however long you want it to. I let it sit for a few hours.
You can find the pattern here:
Saturday, May 10, 2014
Salam alaikum sisters.
Around 2 months postpartum, I noticed my milk supply was running low. No longer was I firm and Hamida was very fussy at the breast. I will admit I wasn't being very intentional with my water intake, I mean, sometimes its difficult to remember to take care of yourself. All you mothers know what I mean.
The mothers milk tea alone was not cutting it. So I went to the arabic store, purchased some whole fenugreek seeds in hopes it would boost my supply. This is how I found preparing them has helped me the most.
I take about 1-2 tablespoons of seeds and slightly crush them. I put them in a quart jar with a tablespoon of fennel seeds, two mothers milk tea bags, two chamomile tea bags, and a tablespoon of honey. I then fill the jar up with boiling water and let it sit on the counter over night. In the morning I squeeze any excess liquid from the tea bags and I put the jar of tea in the refrigerator to keep it from spoiling. I then drink a cup of tea in the morning and the evening.
Alhamdulilah this tea has worked wonders and has gotten my supply back up beautifully.
Now, I know people like to use brewers yeast, but it is quite expensive, so I was very pleased to have found an inexpensive way to keep my milk supply up.
Friday, May 9, 2014
Salam alaikum sisters.
So I am sure most of you have heard about the oil cleansing method. Where you use olive oil and castor oil. Massage into skin then wipe off with a hot wash cloth. I first heard about it from the delusion mom. I thought to try it, but it just didn't work for me and I gave up on it.
One day while I was reorganizing my pantry I saw a bottle of almond oil and thought to try to combine it with the castor oil. It worked wonders for me mashallah! I then went to further my experiments and add some drops of tea tree oil to my mixture. Tea tree oil is a natural cleanser and antibacterial oil. Then I spray rose water on my face as a tiner and moisturize with coconut oil. This is my evening routine.
I found doing the oil cleansing method in morning and evening was too much on my skin. So I just wash my face with water in the morning and once again tone with rose water. I have been doing this for almost a year now. Even during my time of the month I do not have any break outs. Now I did have a few break outs during postpartum, but that was because my schedule was all wacky with getting the appendectomy and having a newborn so there were times I wasn't able to keep up with my routine.
Alhamdulilah I am so pleased with my cleansing routine now and I see better results then I have seen with anything else. Mind you, I was big advocate for aveeno, but no more! The plus side is not only have I been able to save lots of money, I have eliminated the use of chemicals and overly processed products.
Salam alaikum, so despite my last post, I think I am starting to get the hang of this, more then one kid thing. I have learned I can't be the perfectionist that I have always been, because doing so, I am unable to just enjoy the moment. So this past week I've been letting things slide and just been enjoying the children.
After my appendectomy I'd take the kids grocery shopping or to the park on my own, but never had the courage to go anywhere else. So yesterday, I woke up in a very cheerful and over the top positive mood, and you can ask my friends I am normally cheerful to begin with. Already I had planned to go to the mosque Thursday night, but then very spontaneously decided the kids and I would go on a beach trip, just me, Ahmad, and Hamida. So I packed up some snacks, blankets, beach toys, etc and headed off.
The beach I love is only 30 minutes away from our home and you have to pay to enter, which I do not mind. It keeps the riff raff out, the beach is clean, and drinking is prohibited. So when we arrived I first put my wrap on and tucked Hamida inside and Ahmad walked down the beach with me. We played for about an hour in the water then headed back up to eat lunch.
Needless to say Ahmad shed tears cause he thought we were leaving, I had to reassure him over and over that'd we'd be going back. I set the food out, nursed Hamida, took out our double stroller (it has a fold down chair that converts to a bed) and pushed it through the sand. THAT was a work out for sure. Haha.
The tide was coming in, so there were some nice waves. I would take Ahmad by his underarms and let him float the waves. We played for at least 2 more hours, Hamida was so content in her "bed" listening to the waves wash in and out.
Finally I decided it was time to go, of course more tears were shed by Ahmad. But what child doesn't cry when having to leave the beach?
I share this story with you, because it is a big step for me to take the kids on such a big excursion by myself. Alhamdulilah all went well and because of the smoothness of this trip, it encourages me to do it again.
Friday, May 2, 2014
I have total respect of mothers with more then one child and is able to do everything in a day.
How do you do it?
Maybe it is because my husband is working 12 hours a day 6 days a week? Or maybe it is because I do not have family in the state of Florida? Perhaps it is because I only have a handful of friends? But it seems like I am running circles, constant repetition, but no state of change. I vacuum, turn around, dirty again, I wash dishes, turn around, there are more dishes in the sink once again, I seriously need to put them on birth control or something.
Hamida is also a much different baby then Ahmad was. Such a drastic difference, subhanallah. With Ahmad I could just lay him down with a clean diaper and full tummy and he'd sleep, but with Hamida I have to rock her to sleep. Alhamdulilah for my Moby wrap I don't know what I'd do without it. Ahmad loved bath time, Hamida acts as if she's dying. But then there are up sides for Hamida, she is such a healthy baby mashallah. No heart monitor or wires. No weekly pedi appointments. She has also been sleeping through the night for nearly a month, mashallah! Ahmad didn't do this until he was 3 months old. Hamida and Ahmad were/are very smiley and happy babies too.
Concerning Ahmad now, alhamdulilah, for a toddler and supposedly being in the terrible twos he is very well behaved, mashallah. He knows the alphabet (he can't say them in order, but if you ask him where is "a" or where is "q" he can find them) and his numbers 1-10. He is also speaking in Arabic and English, mashallah! Alhamdulilah, alhamdulilah, alhamdulilah, he loves to make salah with me as well. When he hears the athan go off, he comes running with the prayer rug. He is so very good with Hamida too, alhamdulilah. If she cries he tries to comfort her and he gives her unexpected kisses. ♡ Mashallah, Ahmad is a good listener, when I'm out running errands he listens to me and obeys. ♡ He also loves to help as much as he can. Now that his vocabulary is expanding though, he has his own opinion on things and will let me know what he does or doesn't want.
Concerning me and my postpartum? Alhamdulilah all is well. I am currently 130lbs, which I am happy about. I was 115lbs and always felt I was too skinny, now I am very happy with my weight and do not intend to loose it inshallah. My milk supply is still doing great as well alhamdulilah, I have been drinking lots of methi/fenugreek tea.
I am posting this from my phone so inshallah the formatting is correct.
Saturday, March 22, 2014
Saturday, March 1, 2014
We arrived at the hospital a little early, around 5:30am. We were checked in and walked up to the Labor and Delivery ward. The nurses got me settled, put my IV in, and we signed all the consent forms. At 6am the nurses shifts changed and my actual nurse who would be attending to me that day came in. Alhamdulilah, Allah is all knowing and provided me with a nurse who was so lovely and amazing. She is very natural minded herself and loved the birth plan I had written up. She even said she would remind my OBGYN to give me a chance to have Hamida naturally before any pitocin would be given.
Alhamdulilah, once again, Allah provided and instead of my OBGYN inducing me (breaking my water) the midwife who works with my OB came to induce me. I have a close relationship with the midwife and was so happy she was able to do it instead. They figured since I was being induced my labor wouldn't go as quickly as it had with Ahmad (my labor with him, from start to finish, was 2 hours and 15 minutes). The nurse told the midwife to be very rough while breaking my water so it would encourage a quicker labor. Ya Allah, it was quite uncomfortable! The midwife mentioned my water coming out like a river!
So at 8:20am the midwife broke my water, and said I was already dilated to 3cm and she said was able to stretch me to 4cm. She said she would pop back in around 12 to check how I was doing and if nothing had progressed they would give me pitocin.
After 15 minutes of my water breaking the contractions came. They became more and more intense and were becoming more focused in my back. I did not have back labor with Ahmad, and I will admit, the contractions with this birth were more painful then they were with Ahmad. I was pacing the room and preparing my mind for a potentially long labor. At one point I keeled beside my husband, who was on the couch and rocked back and forth, I think at one point I even shook him during a contraction.
My husband hadn't eaten breakfast yet so I told him between a contraction to go ahead and eat something down in the cafeteria, and while he was headed that way to tell the nurse I would like for her to come to the room. The nurse came and I asked if I could take a warm shower since the contractions were getting more intense. She said she wanted to take my vitals real quick and I could shower. My contractions were now 2 minutes apart and very focused in the back, the only way to really deal with it was to sway back and forth. I asked her to check how far dilated I was before preparing my shower. She checked and I was 8cm!
She said, "You can not shower, we may not be able to get you back out of it!"
She called the midwife to come (who had already drove back to the clinic).
Before I knew it, there where nurses in the room. My nurse was amazing and would alleviate the back labor by pressing on my hips with every contraction. She checked me again and I was 9cms. I then wanted to start pushing. Because of the back labor, the only position comfortable for me was on my knees, and alhamdulilah, my nurse said I could position myself in any way I wanted.
I pushed for about 5 minutes (with no coaching, but letting my body do what it wanted, again, my nurse was amazing and respected all my wishes in my birth plan). I dont know how many times I pushed because I started having the urge to push at 9cms. With Ahmad I never screamed but this back labor was excruciating and I screamed while pushing. I felt her head almost come out, but the contraction finished and her head slid right back.
After an hour of skin to skin the nurses weighed Hamida, she was 6lbs 1oz and 19 inches long.