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Monday, April 30, 2012

Update on 4 Month Old Baby Ahmad!

May 2nd Ahmad will be 4 months old! I can't hardly believe that he is only 2 months shy of being 6 months! May 1st we have a doctors appointment, which is when we will know his weight. I am very sure he is about 15 pounds now because he fits into number 3 diapers, which are really for 18 pound babies. He can also fit into some of his 6-9 month old clothes- which is absolutely crazy, because I can remember when he couldn't even fit into preemie clothes!

He is changing a lot. He is my joy and sunshine. He now rolls on his side- hasn't quite figured out how to roll on his stomach yet! 

Ahmad also sits very well with little support. 

He loves to suck on his thumb and HATES his masoosa (pacifier).

He loves to play with his little Eeyore that my mother gave to him and now sleeps a full night, usually waking me up around the time of our morning prayer. He is so very attentive and seems to absorb everything that is going on around him. He is such a sweet baby, it's like he understands me fully, if I am kind of sad, he will give me a great big grin which never fails to cheer me up! For most of our 5 daily prayers, I lay him next to me when I prayer and he just watches me. Insha'allah (God willing) when he is older, I will see him standing in front of me leading the prayer. He is a very content baby, doesn't mind playing by himself while Mama gets things done around the house. Ahmad is truly my pride and joy!

A Cook Out and a Soccer Game!

Last night, Sunday, which is the day my husband gets off at 6 in the evening, we went to a friends house for a cook out. Well, maybe I should say my husbands friends. I had never met them before, the husband is from Iraq and the wife is from Jordan. When we arrived I went into the kitchen to say "Salam alaikum (peace be upon you)" to the wife. Mind you she speaks no English, so I spoke to her in my limited Arabic, introducing myself and my baby, also asking her if she needed any help in the kitchen. She said no so I left and went back outside. 

The men were out in the big yard playing soccer, yes the yard was big enough to have a soccer field. I didn't really pay too much attention since a few of my lady friends were there, but my husband made two goals! :) I will have to say the cutest thing I saw while they were playing, was when the youngest son of the family, who is 3, his name is Mohammad, made a goal! He took off his shirt and started swinging it in the air! Absolutely adorable!

The time came for us to eat. The lady of the house, Mutaw, cook everything outside over a fire. When my husband and everyone else came over to eat she said to Jasim, 

"Your wife speaks good Arabic." 

Jasim's friends said, "She can't speak Arabic." I have always been shy speaking around them when they come to our house, so I never do. 

But Mutaw said, "Well I can't speak english and I know she spoke with me!"

Mutaw and her husband Hamdi has 3 children, Sinaat, Abbar, and Mohammad. Abbar, the little girl is so adorable! She is very helpful too. Sinaat and Mohammad are as cute as can be. These children are so very well behaved!

The food was good, the company was great, and I hope we can visit them again very soon!

Saturday, April 28, 2012


I didn't think to start taking pictures for this blog post until after I finished making the sugar syrup so please forgive me that there is not any pictures on how to make the syrup. Also, when taking these pictures I was doubling the recipe, so do not compare the recipe measurements to the measurements in the pictures.

Syrup Mixture:
2 cups sugar
1 cup water
2 TBS lemon juice
1 TBS rose water
1 TBS orange blossom water

Prepare syrup first. Combine sugar, water and lemon juice. Bring mixture to a boil.
Boil for 8-10 minutes. Add rose water and orange blossom water and set aside. 

Cake Mixture:
1 cup sugar
1/4 cup butter
1 1/2 tsp Almond extract or you can use vanilla extract- whichever to your liking
2 eggs
1 1/2 cups course semolina flour
1/2 cup very fine semolina flour
1 cup milk- preferably whole milk
1 TBS baking powder


Preheat oven to 350F.

Grease 9x13 pan with tahini paste- or oil if you like.

Combine butter and sugar and cream together.

Add eggs and almond extract.

Mix well and set aside.

Take the semolina flours and baking powder and mix in a separate bowl.

Take the dry mixture and gradually add to your wet mixture to avoid clumping. Maybe about 1/4-1/2 cup of dried mixture at a time.

After all the dry mixture is added, the batter should look thick like this.

Now add milk. Add gradually, sometimes you do not need at much as the recipe says, but other times you do- I have no idea why. But the mixture must be a little thick but NOT runny.

In the end it should look of this consistency. 

Put into greased pan.

Take your almonds and place on the cake as shown in the pictures below.

As you can see, the mixture is thick enough to where if you take a knife and run it through the batter, it will leave a line.

Bake the basbousa for about 30-40 minutes depending on your oven. If it's brown on the bottom but not on the top, simply turn the broiler on and watch it. Be sure not to burn it. Mine is a bit dark because baby all of a sudden started to cry. The joy of children! <3

Once you have cut the cake as shown above drizzle all of the sugar syrup on it.

You can serve with coffee or tea. :)

Thursday, April 26, 2012

Our 1st Anniversary and Ahmad's 1st Trip to the Beach!

My husband and I's first Anniversary was the 24th of this month! I can hardly believe that a year has already passed! So much has taken place in one year. We counted and about 10 big  events that took place in this one year:

1. Getting Married
2. Learning to co-share a house with another family, which is something I never want to do again!
3. I got pregnant.
4. My first visit to my family in Missouri in the Summer of 2011.
5. We moved to our first new apartment.
6. Our baby was born January 2nd, 2012, 6 weeks premature.
7. 7 days after delivery I was readmitted in the hospital for a uterine infection.
8. January 19th, we finally got to take our baby home.
9. We sold our extra car.
10. Jasim sent me to see my family again April 2012!

For our 1st Anniversary we really didn't go all out or anything. We went out to eat and then took a trip to the beach. It was Ahmads first time at the ocean and I think he enjoyed it because he didn't cry when I dangled his little feet in the water. We didn't stay long though, I didn't want him to get sun-burnt. After we returned home we just relaxed at the house until some friends of ours came over. So I made some tea and set out some fruit and cookies for them. Ahmad was really grumpy because he was overly tired. But once I fed him he fell right asleep. Company left and that ended our day.

My Trip Home To Missouri!

My trip home to Missouri was beyond my expectations! I got to visit a lot of family members that I hadn't seen for years and I had good times with my immediate family. The Saturday before I left, I went to the Lamar park to meet my fathers family for a picnic. We ate and talked, my daddy is a harsh man. He was complaining about my baby's name asking why we didn't give him an "American" name, but then he went on to say that his name is Hebrew and mine is Greek and yada yada. Sometimes I just don't get him! 

Our plane ride back was a bit more tense then the one up to Missouri. I think while we were there for the 11 days Ahmad is beginning to teeth. So he was kind of cranky, mind you he never "cried cried" but he was for sure not sleeping the whole trip. His stomach was also very upset and he was spitting up everywhere. He also had a more difficult time "readjusting" to our house rather then my grandmas house. My grandma has dogs, the television on, and always a hustle and bustle going about. On the other hand, we don't have any animals in the house, the only time we have television on is if I am tired of the quiet, and its usually just me and the baby. The only hustling is me cleaning and cooking.

Ahmad is such an AWESOME baby! He sleeps almost a solid 6-8 hours every night now! He makes up for it during the day though by still eating every 2 hours and right before he goes to bed he eat every hour.

My mother and my son!

4 generations!

My grandpa, myself and my son.

My brother Caleb and his nephew!

Ahmad wearing the Kufi I made for him!


My brother Ira and his nephew!

My Daddy and his grandson!

Me and my little BIG brother!

Daddy, myself, my step mom and my son!

Ahmad loves his blanky and his fingers!

Farewell picture at the airport! :'(

Sunday, April 22, 2012

A Day Out With My Mother

This morning my mother and I went to Kansas City along with the baby to spend the day together. We first went to the movie theater to watch the "Hunger Games". It was a very good movie, and it actually had a moral to it which is hard to find these days. After the movie was finished it was time for Dhuhr prayer so she drove me to the closest mosque and stayed with the baby in the truck while I prayed. After that we went to some lady stores and bought some pretty little intimates. 

Ahmad is such a good little baby. He travels and shops well, only starts to fuss when he is messy or hungry. All in all it was a lovely day. My mother and I actually had some time to ourselves to talk in private and catch up. 

Leaving tomorrow brings bittersweet feelings, I so badly miss my husband but I don't want to leave my family either. 

Thursday, April 19, 2012

My Mother's Embrace

The night before last, I was cooking some supper when my mother came over to see her grandson. While I was at the stove stirring the stew my mother came from behind and gave me a hug. A nice warm, soft, loving embrace from my mother. I will never forget it!

A Day Out Visiting

Yesterday my grandparents, Ahmad and I went out to visit some family. We first went to my grandpas sister, I hadn't seen her in ages. Probably for almost 10 years. Anyhoo, after visiting her we went to my grandmas sister.

My Aunt's daughter is getting married tomorrow, the oldest one is married- she is about my moms age- and has a 3 year old and a 1 year old. When visiting with her it felt like we were at the same age level due to having kids around the same age. Funny how that is. Bear in mind, I hadn't seen that side of the family since forever, probably the last time was when my great grandma died. After she passed on our families didn't really get together, that was when I was 6 so it has been almost 14 years! It feels so strange when you know people who remember when you were just a tiny baby.

After we left my Aunt's, we went to my grandpa's brothers. He has a son who is in Ghatar, serving in the army or the marines, I forget  which it is. Like the others I hadn't seen them for a while either. I forgot how talkative Aunt E was. All in all it was a nice day, today I am meeting up with some friends I had went to school with from k-6. One girl who is younger then me has a 1 year old boy. So I am pretty anxious to see them. :) 

Friday, April 13, 2012

Traveling with a 3 Month Old!

April 12th my 3 month old and I traveled to Missouri from Florida. At first I was kind of nervous about travelimg by myself without my husbands extra hands but we managed very well! Alhamdulilah.

Ahmad didn't cry at all. I fed him when he was hungry, by the way, for any nursing mothers out there that do not wish to show the whole shebang, I really recommend going to uddercovers.com where they have these wonderful nursing covers. They are made in such a way where you can see your baby but no one else can. If you use the promo code of 'breastfeeding' all you have to do is pay for shipping and handling!

Our plane left at 6:50 in the morning, so I got up at 4:30 to get me and the baby ready and finish packing those last minute items. For both flights I got the window and there are great. It has a more "private" feeling and you have the choice to open or close your window. When we had a 2 hour layover in Atlanta Georgia that is when I changed his diaper. We also did a diaper change before our next flight as we had a 2 hour layover.

I was really surprised that we didn't have problems with traveling by ourselves, I think me and Ahmad will make great travel buddies!

My grandparents came to pick me up. First time for them to see their great-grandson. We were planning on going for lunch with my mom. Grandpa said to my grandma, "Why don't you call the jitterbug and tell her that what she has been waiting for all week is finally here." We picked her up from work and we took lunch at panera bread. My mom held Ahmad the whole! While getting her food and while eating.

After we were finished eating we went to drop my mom off for work. She wanted to show Ahmad off to her co-workers. Many of them didn't even know that she was a grandmother. I will never forget everytime she proudly announced, "This my Grandson!"

Saturday, April 7, 2012

8 Things Every Child Should Experience

I am on this "moms only" website and I came across this post of 8 things every kid should experience. Of course my baby is only 3 months old so I couldn't say my baby experienced any of these. So when I replied, I replied about my childhood. I thought that it would be interesting for my friends to see it so they could know more about me as well. :) So I am posting my reply to the ladies article on cafemom. 

"I only have a 3 month old, so I will answer these for myself. :)
Being part of a team: I played basketball and softball when I was in middle school.
Camping: My father didn't have a house one summer so we lived in a tent for 3 months and cooked over a fire. :)
Chores: we had milk goats, chickens and horses, a large garden and a wood stove. No washer machine. So of course we had chores! Which including washing clothes by hand. 
Snow: we lived in the Midwest, so not only did we experience snow but we also had a lot of ice storms.
Farm life: I answered that on the chores. We had our own domestic farm :) But I have worked on two Mennonite farms, a truck and garden farm and a chicken farm from age 14-16.
Lemoande stand: Our closest neighbor was about 1 1/2 miles away so who could we sell lemonade to? We did pick berries in the summer and sell them to the amish.
Flying a kite: Yes, but we made our own. :D
Bowling: On a feild trip with my classmates."

An Uneasy Moment

Last night before my husband came home, I had called him and asked him to pick up some diapers from CVS. When he came home he said that I had his debit card so I would have to go after we ate. When we finished our supper I got all "wrapped" up and left. When I got to the store I grabbed the diapers and headed to the front to check them out. As I was walking to the line, this older man turned around and said,

"Where you from? HUH? Where you FROM?" 

He made me feel really uneasy so at first I didn't answer, but he kept insisting and asking, "Where you from? Are you from over "there"?" 

I finally said, "I am from here." 

"So then why do you where that veil THING? What were you born THAT way? Or do you just practice those beliefs or are you a convert?" He kind sneered the word convert, while at the same time I smelled a hint of liquor on his breath.

"I am a convert."

By this time I felt really uncomfortable. He asked me another question which I can not bring to mind and I chose not answer. He then asked, "What you aren't gonna answer my questions now?"

 I said, "Look, I have to go home to my baby." 

After that he mumbled something under his breath and went to the check out.

 I never mind people asking me questions and I don't mind answering them, its just how his demeanor and vibes were that made me feel extremely uneasy. Only when I got back home did I feel "safe".

Wednesday, April 4, 2012

A Visit Home! (Questions about traveling by myself with a 3 month old)

So April 12th I am going home with my baby to visit my family! My husband can not come because of his responsibilities at work, mind you my family hasn't even met him yet. This will be the first time ANY of my family has seen my baby, other then the pictures I put on facebook or sent through emails. I will be traveling by myself with the baby by airplane. 

I will admit that I am a bit nervous about this arrangement. What if I have to go to the bathroom in the airplane? I can't because no one is there to watch the baby. What if the baby decides to have one of his fussy moments and I am looked at as one of those mothers who can't control her children? What if he gets hungry? there are no private rooms for me to breastfeed him in. I have never fed him in public, I would always go to our car and feed him, or go in the stores bathroom. Insha'allah- God willing, my traveling will be made easy. For all those mothers out there that have tips about traveling by yourself with a little baby do let me know! :)

Ahmad's Second Birthday!

Our Anniversary!