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Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Forgive Me

Ya Allah, Forgive me, 
When I forget the reason why I was created,
When I indulge myself in sins which you forbid,
Those acts I have committed which I now cry for.
For not being thankful for all the things you have blessed me with,
For not always being willing to take the path You wished for me.

Forgive me my Lord, my Creator, my Sustainer, and my Judge.
I kneel down on the ground and beg for Your Mercy daily.
You are the all Merciful and all Forgiver.
So forgive me for my mistakes which I have committed knowingly or unintentionally,
And guide me to the path You have for me.
Give me the courage and patience to remain on the right path forever, the path of Islam.

Ya Allah, please be merciful and forgive all of us Muslims that come to you with a sincere heart.


Saturday, December 10, 2011

My Mother

A friend of mine wrote an article about her mother and how she impacted her life. I thought it was a lovely idea, and for the past day or so been thinking and reflecting about my own mother.

For the first 6 years of my life, my mother stayed home and taking care of me and my two younger brothers. I really do not remember those years, except for a few things. I remember her teaching me how to brush my teeth, giving me a daily bath, cleaning our bedrooms after we destroyed it, and cooking delicious meals for the family.

I remember it was Valentines Day, and our mother had bought us all little gifts and hid them in odd places around the house. She then gave us a paper that had the first hint of where our first gift was. After we found our first gift, with it was another paper with a hint, and it continued that way until we collected all of our gifts. I will NEVER forget that day. It has always stayed in my memories. Then my mother and father got divorced.

Shortly after we moved into a little town where my grandparents lived. My mother was caring for me, and my two brothers and yet working to pay for the bills. My grandma and grandpa helped her out a lot by taking me to school and picking me up, then watching me and my brothers when we returned. Through this, I see now- not at the time- but now I see how strong my mother is. She worked hard and sacrificed much for us 3.

She always made sure we did well in school. EVERY day when we came home, we had to do our chores then finish our homework before we did anything else. EVERY day, we had to write our spelling words 5 times each, and no sloppy handwriting! If it wasn't readable we had to go back and rewrite them 10 times each. At the time we thought she was just being cruel, but now I reap the benefits of having the basic knowledge in spelling and very good handwriting. 

I believe when I was 10-11, my mother started going back to college and yet working at the same time. In 2007 she graduated, and is now an accountant. Through my mother I see that no matter what misfortunes take place in your life, if you have the will power, you can make a better life for yourself.

This year of 2011, my mother diagnosed with sarcodosis. Again she didn't let this trial get in her way! She was so strong and proved to the people around her that if you have enough will power anything is possible. She is now her way of mending. I am so very proud of my mother. She was at the very bottom in the eyes of the world; divorced, 3 children, and no college degree. But she proved to the world and to me, that no matter how the world or others see you, you can better your life. It may not be easy, it may require much sacrifice, but in the end it is possible.

I love my mother and all that she has done for my brothers and I. And I am so proud of her accomplishments in her life!

Monday, December 5, 2011

Cleanliness in Islam

The most common knowledge among non-muslims about Muslims, are the 5 daily prayers. But many people have created misconceptions or preconceived notions about us. When I grew up I had always heard that Muslims were dirty people. Not until shortly BEFORE I came to Islam did I learn about how clean Muslims really were.

As Muslims, before we pray each prayer, we must clean or purify ourselves- commonly known as "wudu". Wudu includes washing our hands, mouth, nose, face, head, ears, neck, forearms, and our feet up to our ankles 3 times each, 5 times a day.

 (O you who believe! When you rise up for prayer, wash your faces, and your hands up to 
the elbows, and wipe your heads (with wet hands), and (wash) your feet up to the ankles. 
And if you are in a state of major ritual impurity (janaba), purify yourselves (by taking a  
bath). And if you are sick or on a journey, or one of you comes from the answering of call 
of nature, or you have had contact with women, and you find no water, then go to clean  
earth and wipe your faces and hands with some of it. Allah does not want to place you in 
difficulty, but He wants to purify you and to perfect His grace upon you that you may 
give thanks.)

 "Truly, Allah loves those who turn unto Him in repentance and loves those who purify themselves (by taking a bath and cleaning and washing thoroughly their private parts, bodies, for their prayers etc.). 
 Al Baqarah 2:222

We also do not use toilet paper alone to clean ourselves after using the restroom. When I had first heard this I thought it was gross to use only water. But if you look at in another perspective it makes perfect sense; when you use the restroom and happen to get something vile on you, what do you do? Do you just wipe your hands with paper? NO! We would automatically wash with water and soap. I will leave you with that thought.

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Cleanliness is half of faith and Alhamdulillah (Praise be to Allah) fills the scale, and SubhanAllah (Glory be to Allah) and Alhamdulillah (Praise be to Allah) fill up what is between the heavens and the earth, and prayer is a light, and charity is proof (of one's faith) and endurance is a brightness and the Qur'an is a proof on your behalf or against you. 
 Sahih Muslim Book 2, Number 0432
Cleanliness does not just stop at our personal hygiene. Prophet Muhammad (peace be on him) stressed the importance of us keeping our homes clean. We as Muslims are a representation of Islam, which is a religion of cleanliness. Therefore, cleanliness is an important characteristic for a Muslim. 

The Messenger of Allah (peace be on him) said, Assuredly, Allah (swt) is good and loves goodness, is clean and loves cleanliness, is generous and loves generosity, is hospitable and loves hospitality. So keep your rooms and courtyards clean, and do not be like the Jews. 
Reported by al-Tirmidhi.

We should always make sure that we make our beds, put our clothing away rather then leaving them lying on the floor, and clean ourselves properly in the way Allah (swt) has ordered. We should also avoid making messes be it in your home, another's home, a place of worship, or in the work area. We all should continue to strive to be GOOD ambassadors of Islam at all times.

Sunday, December 4, 2011


When I am walking in a store, with a question that needs to be answered, I am more pron to ask a worker who, when I look at them, smile. Which human being isn't attracted to those who have a cheerful countenance?

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Do not abuse anyone…Do not look down upon any good work, and when you speak to your brother, show him a cheerful face.” Sunan of Abu-Dawood, Hadith 1889
This morning as I was cleaning the kitchen I thought about why smiling is good for us and good for others. Here are some things that I was able to think of:

Smiling helps us to stay positive. For instance, if you smile now and think of something negative how long does that smile last? The only conclusion that I could come to for this is that when we smile we are sending a message to the rest of our body that life is good. So lets all strive to stay away from depression or stress with a smile!

Smiling is also natural drug. If you are feeling down and someone you know comes along that always has that way to make you smile, leaves you feeling better. Why is that? When I was attending a Medical Missionary College in Georgia, I learned that when you smile your body automatically releases three feel good substances: endorphin's, natural pain killers, and serotonin. In this case, why don't we strive to be one of those that bring smiles to others?

When I hear the word contagious I get scared. I think of some horrible sickness, or disease. But did you know that smiling is contagious? When we smile we can completely change the atmosphere around us. A smiling person brings happiness with them, therefore in return people are drawn to you.

So in conclusion, we must all have to admit that we are drawn to those who smile. There is an automatic attraction factor in smiling. Frowns, scowls and grimaces all push people away, while a smile only draws people to you.

Saturday, December 3, 2011

Fault Finding

These Hadiths were such a great reminder to me that I thought to share them and their meaning to me.  

Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said: "He who sees something which should be kept hidden and conceals it will be like one who has brought to life a girl buried alive (a pre-Islamic practice). 
 Sunan of Abu-Dawood, Hadith 2292 

And on another occasion: "Each of you is the mirror of his brother, so if he sees any fault in him he should wipe it away." 
 Al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 1286

I love the last Hadith which talks about how we are each a mirror of our brother or sister, and if we find a fault in one of them, we should wipe it away. For me, this means that we ought to go to that brother or sister and speak to them about their fault. How can we help our Islamic family if we go and spread their faults, at the same time smudging our very own mirror by back-biting and gossiping?

I have had some "sisters" who would come to me and tell me my faults, but do it in such a nasty and cruel way that it brought more pain then healing.

This is where being humble also comes into place, when we go to someone to speak to them about their short-comings, we must remember our own. We all have to remember that each of us have feelings and that we should think before speaking to anyone about their faults. We must ask ourselves if we really understand what they are going through at the moment. Perhaps their actions are just due to their circumstances and normally they wouldn't behave that way. Speak to them and say things to them how you would like someone to speak to you.

We are all brothers and sisters in Islam, and we should all treat each other as such. Just as we wouldn't go around spreading bad things about our biological family, why do we as Muslims go around spreading the faults of our brothers and sisters in Islam? I will have to admit, after reading these Hadiths and reflecting I have found this is something I have to work on in myself. Insha'allah I will improve.

 بِسۡمِ اللهِ الرَّحۡمٰنِ الرَّحِيۡمِ
All Praise unto Allah, Lord of the worlds. 
The Compassionate, the Merciful, 
Sovereign of the Day of Reckoning. 
Thee alone we worship; and of Thee alone we seek help. 
Guide us in the straight path, 
The path of those whom Thou hast favored. On whom Thy indignation has not befallen, and who have not gone astray.
 سُوۡرَةُ الفَاتِحَة
Surah Al-Fatiha
The Opening Chapter

Friday, December 2, 2011

Benefits of Being Humble

You learn new things 
When we are humble, we are in a way, telling others that we don’t know everything. That we want their help to learn new things. There is no end to knowledge. 
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "Seeking knowledge in (the company of others) for an hour in the night is better than spending the whole night in prayer." 
Al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 91

Realizing there is room to improve 
It’s hard to be humble when we think we are perfect in every way and PROUD of it! We all- well, most of us- seek for perfection and when we achieve it, it is only the humble ones who realize that there is always more room for improvement. If we think that there is no room to improve in religion, life, marriage, etc. One day we will wake being sorely disappointed. 

Being able to communicate with others 
No one is meant to journey through life alone. When you understand the importance of being humble, you understand the importance of other people and their point of views. So, when you talk with others, instead of simply stating your point and not listening to the other opinion, you listen, in the mean time make new friends and a lasting impression. I have found with being more open minded, there is so much to learn from others. Despite their background, religion, lifestyle, etc. We have all lived different lives and have experienced different things.
Self-conceit shows a lack of sensibility and maturity. Those who are more reflective and spiritually mature have the sense to attribute whatever gifts they may have to the Creator, the Most High, and devote themselves to Him with humble gratitude.
From the Book "Pearls of Wisdom" 

Being Humble

I believe that all of us, including me, often forget the meaning of a simple word. I came across a Hadith and a verse of the Quran that mentions being humble. Wanting to refresh my memory of the true meaning of being humble I looked it up on a online dictionary. One definition caught my eye, "conscious of one's failings."

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "God has revealed to me that you must be humble, so that no one oppresses another and boasts over another." 
 Sunan of Abu-Dawood, Hadith 2294

"(O Prophet Muhammad) give good news to the humble, whose hearts tremble with awe at the mention of God, who endure adversity with patience, who establish regular prayer, and who spend in charity out of what we have given them." 
 The Holy Quran, 22:34-35

If we, as humans, remember all of our failings, and keep in remembrance the greatness and the complete perfection of our Creator, we would never have the horrible problem of pride. 

We must remember that just as easy as Allah (swt) has given us health, riches, family, or any other thing that we have in our life, He can just as easily take it away. Despite what Allah (swt) has blessed us with, in the end of the day we are all the same- humans and sinners. Let us keep conscious of our failings and strive to be ever humble and submissive to Allah (swt). Let us knock down the barrier of pride so that we as Muslims can be unified and there for each other in the time of need. 

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